Maybe you struggle with compulsive shopping or overspending, maybe you can’t resist adding a new item to you wardrobe, even if you don’t need it… just know that you’re not alone. I have been struggling with mindless shopping for many years and I’d like to share my latest insight with you guys. Maybe you’re thinking “What are you whining about”, then you can just close this article, but if you recognize any of this, keep on reading because I have good news for you!
Sometimes you know things are getting out of hand, but still you can’t quite find a way to just quit. Even the most sane person can struggle with a bad habit that’s just not easy to quit, knowing how bad it actually is. Call it an addiction, or call it what you want.
What I know is that browsing through all the different webshops ruled my life. I was constantly looking for new stuff, improving my style, trying out new things and adding duplicates of items I already owned. Who needs 10 white blouses after all?
It became so bad, that I just couldn’t go 10 days without feeling the urge to shop and add something new to my closet, even if I don’t really needed something. I would just go online and see what was available and get tempted by all the pretty things that are made these days. I just couldn’t resist the thrill of it. Leaving me frustrated, restless and broke.
Quitting a bad habit isn’t easy, hell, without the right motivation you can call it Mission Impossible. So the first, and most important, step is to find the right motivation. Don’t think too much about it, if it motivates you to change a habit it’s good enough. For me, the greatest motivation was wanting to buy a Chanel bag. For over 15 years I’ve been craving for this cult status symbol and that’s something that won’t change easily. Since it costs a fortune, it’s not something you buy impulsively.
Find a goal you love more than shopping and work towards achieving that goal.
This year I made the decision that the cost is worth it for me. Either I’ll keep lusting over it for the next 15 years to come, or I spend the money and enjoy it for the next 15 years to come. So working towards this goal makes dropping all the other things so much easier. Are all those tops and trend items really worth it? Or would I rather have less stuff of higher quality and the bags I love?
To be honest, this motivation, and only this, is what made it possible for me to quit impulsive shopping overnight.
How does it feel to not shop for over a month? Honestly, it feels relieving. Spending less time online shopping, makes that I have more time to do what I love. Like reading, walking my dogs, and so on. I don’t feel the impulse to constantly browse for new items in fear of missing out. Taking time off from shopping also made me more creative with my existing wardrobe, appreciating what I already own. Instead of adding new items, I take another look at my wardrobe and I relive the joy I felt when I bought those items.
Nothing feels as good as getting the wear out of things you love.
It has actually come to a point where I find it hard to spend money or buy new things. Instead of mindlessly browsing and adding to my basket, I postpone every purchase – even the things I actually need. Asking myself loads of questions before even wanting something, like is it worth it? Do I need it (now)? Would I rather spend the money on a Chanel bag? Those questions work every time, especially that last one, since that’s my motivation.
Not only will I buy more mindful and with a purpose, one of the most rewarding feelings is that I even want less. I’m no longer persuaded by new items, trends or other fashion bloggers. Especially fast fashion has no influence on me anymore. Where I used to buy at Zara weekly, I now think of brands that represent my style and invest in quality. Those items are often more expensive, but that makes the joy of waiting and saving up for it bigger. For example, I’m looking forward to going to New York in two months and look over there for a nice leather jacket.
So even though you think you can’t help it or it feels hard, know that it is possible to change. Most of all, I’m amazed by how fast you can actually change a strong habit and how you can easily change your life with the right motivation and willpower.