3 tips to overcome negativity

At some point in life we have all been confronted with negativity. Maybe it’s been negative world news, family problems or maybe you just didn’t feel at ease in your own skin. It’s so easy to get caught up in a state of habitual skepticism and before you know it, time has gone by and you’ve lost several months to negative thinking and feeling unhappy.

You may not have an on-off switch to shut down negative thoughts, but there are some great tools that can help you focus on the positive side of life. We all have heard about the benefits of meditation and I strongly believe in the power of mindfulness, but there are some other simple steps you can take besides taking time to meditate.

Below I’ve listed three easy steps that help me get out of a bad mood. They may not work for everyone, but they sure are worth the try.

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Focus on the good

Stating the obvious when it comes to talking about a bad mood, but it truly is the most important thing for me. Focussing on the good things in life will always help you through hard times… Unfortunately I find this one the most difficult to apply in my personal life. Whenever I get stuck in a negative vibe, I tend to see everything with ‘all-is-bad-glasses’ on. Suddenly I don’t feel good in my own skin, I find my life boring and have this feeling that there is nothing I can actually do well. Which is nonsense of course, but I just can’t help feeling blue from time to time. Focussing on the good just doesn’t go easy when I feel like this. However, trying to focus on what actually is good in life helps me put things in perspective. Didn’t I just do something amazing at work just last week? Or that one friend that felt really bad after a heartbreak was able to cry out on my shoulder. There are always things you do that you can be proud of. Focussing on those little things helps you build a road to more of it.

Another one of my holy grails is focussing on people who focus on the good. Having people around me who mostly see the bright side of life, helps me see it as well. Sometimes you just need someone to point out that you aren’t a ray of sunshine today and that things aren’t as bad as you think. Someone who will step outside with you and say, what a beautiful cloudy sky!

Find friends like that and you will be forever grateful.

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Stop for a moment and look back

Whenever I’m experiencing a negative period in my life, I take a moment to stop and look back on the road behind me. When did I feel like this before? What did I learn from previous times? Asking myself these questions mostly provides the correct answers immediately. Knowing I’ve handled some hard situations before gives me the courage and motivation to handle the present. When you realize that you can just step out of negativity, it gets so much easier to be happy again. Happiness is a state of mind and just by changing your mind, you can feel pure joy.

Most of the time I just say to myself ‘Hey, snap out of it. Life is so good.’

Looking back puts everything in perspective. Life is just filled with ups and downs, that’s what gives you opportunities to grow. Every time you are confronted with unfortunate events it will be easier to handle them with grace and a positive attitude. I guess it kind of goes hand in hand with getting older.

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Watch your agenda

Throughout the years I’ve experienced that negativity grows fastest when you have a moderate agenda. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to have a serene lifestyle, but it can easily be a trap as well. Being at home in the comfort (or discomfort) of your routine, can stimulate negative thinking and maybe you won’t have people around who see the change – or dare to say it to your face.

Instead, try to fill your spare time with things that bring you joy. Don’t forget to think about yourself once in a while. Doing things you love, like having some alone time or going for drinks with friends, is fundamental to break a negative circle. It’s really important you discover what works for you. For example, I recharge myself when I’m alone, browsing the web, watching YouTube movies or playing Sims. These moments are sacred for me and whenever take some me-time, I always feel relieved and relaxed. On other times I find it so much fun going out with friends, talking about life and making fun. It’s all about feeling what is good for me at that moment.

On the other hand, having a too busy schedule won’t bring happiness either. If you are feeling overwhelmed by life, it might be a good idea to take a step back and downsize your activities. Does everything need to be done today? Or can someone else do it for you? It’s no shame to ask for some help, that’s what friends and family are for.

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I hope you found this article helpful. There’s no shame in being stuck in a negative mood, as long as you can acknowledge it and work towards a brighter tomorrow. Know that you aren’t alone in this and life will always bring ups and downs.

What are your tips for getting out of a negative mood?


About the look

This is definitely one of my favorite looks. This white sweater from Asos is just so warm and cosy, I could almost live in this one. It also gives my classic black-and-white look a warmer touch. The Acne Jensen boots are also so easy to wear, they just go with every outfit I have and feel like walking on clouds. They are the most comfortable boots in my closet at the moment. So who wouldn’t say yes to an outfit that makes you feel on-top and cosy at the same time?

Sweater: Asos (similar)
Jeans: Calvin Klein Jeans
Bag: Proenza Schouler
Shoes: Acne Studios
Watch: Cluse


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