In this post I want to talk about letting go. First of all, I have to admit I’m not the greatest at letting things go. Most of the time I tend to hold on too long, letting things drain my energy. It’s no different when it comes to my wardrobe.
Todays inspiration was this old shirt I had from Eleven Paris with Katy Perry on it. I’m a fan of Katy Perry and loved this Eleven Paris collection, leaving me to buy not one, but three t-shirts in the same style. Since these were such trendy shirts, I never got the wear out of all three. But year after year I kept all three in my wardrobe believing I would wear them again. Now we are 6 years later and I still haven’t gotten any wear out of this particular shirt. So I sat down, took a good look in the mirror while I was wearing this shirt and decided it was now really time to let go…
1. Examine why you don’t love it
First of all, it’s important to know why you don’t love the item. I can think of several different reasons why something doesn’t feel good anymore. Maybe it’s gone out of style, maybe it doesn’t fit anymore or sometimes we just get bored after wearing a certain item too many times. Whatever the reason is, don’t sweat it. It’s normal that you won’t love certain items for the rest of your life, you’re only human after all.
2. See the item for what it is
Once you know why it is you don’t love a certain item, you have to see it for what it is. Just a piece of fabric. Nothing bad will happen when you decide to part with it. Yes, you spent money on this, yes it might still be good, but these things change the fact that it doesn’t bring you happiness. Au contraire, it only leaves you feeling guilty that you don’t love it.
3. Make a decision on what to do with it
Now you know that it doesn’t quite fit you. So the next step is deciding on what to do with it. Maybe you just don’t love it right now and you can store it for next season. Or you could donate or sell the items you don’t love. There are so many options to not make it wasteful. I like to focus on a sustainable wardrobe, so recycling is the way to go.
4. Replace or don’t replace
Deciding to part with an item doesn’t necessarily mean you have to replace it. Go back to why you didn’t love it in the first place. Maybe it didn’t fit right, but you did love the style. Than you can go and look for an alternative that does fit you and your (life)style. Maybe you want to invest in a better quality item or you want to replace a certain blouse with a more trend-related one.
5. Don’t feel guilty
Make sure you actually close the door on the item you parted with. There is no need to feel guilty on having spent money. We only learn from our past mistakes and grow better by evaluating. It’s only trial and error and nothing is ever wasted if you take a moment to learn from it. It can only lead to you making better choices in the future.
So let it go…